Parents are becoming strangers to their own children especially when they become teenagers. Young people aren’t able to talk to their parents. How can we improve the relationships between parents and children in our modern society while protecting their Islam.
Shaykh Muhammad Al-Yaqoubi delivers a beautiful discourse on raising children. Outlining several pieces of advice for all parents and parents to be to take note and act upon. The talk was delivered in Bolton, UK in November 2017.
Shaykh Hasan Ali discusses how some Muslims today do not show the respect and honor towards their parents. And parents of children have a responsibilty to be loving of them to teach them the way of the Prophet (s). They have come to such a situation there is such a disconnect between the parent and children that they are strangers to each other. Shaykh Hasan reminds us what Allah says in the Quran regarding the status of parents and the importance of raising righteous children.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) is often called The Teacher. In fact, his entire life is a lesson. In this seminar, we explore how the Prophet taught, nurtured and guided children through compassion, love and modelling right action. We will explore how, as parents and educators, we can take this Prophetic advice and use it to nurture children to have good character.
Lets Draw lessons from these versus: “So by mercy from Allah , [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].” (Surah Nisa, verse 159) Dealing with children and specially teens with love and compassion. Pardoning and forgiving our teens will bring them closer to us. Recognizing that it is only Allah that guides and no one else and seeking Allah’s guidance for ourselves and our families.
Quranic examples of parent-child relationships shed light on many issues that plight Muslim families all over the world today, says Nouman Ali Khan. While the story of Prophet Ibrahim (AS), whose father built idols that he destroyed, reminds us that imaan is not only influenced by the environment in which we are raised, that of Nuh (AS) and his son teaches us that even if you are a Prophet, you may end up with a child who refuses to accept Allah’s message. Although we have a responsibility towards our children, we have no control over the results. Allah has endowed all human beings with the ability to think for themselves which means that once your child reaches adulthood, he/she will have to make their own choices. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) famously told his daughter Fahemah that she should fear Allah because she will have to stand before Him at her own merits, for even he cannot intervene on her behalf. Risking our spiritual and emotional relationship with our children can be avoided if we take a cue from Luqman (AS) who waited for the right circumstances to lecture his son about religion. And to sons and daughters, beware because the crimes you commit against your parents will only lead to perpetual loss and agony both in this life and the next.
Shaykh Hasan Ali discusses the youth of today in the West and how parents should understand the differences in the culture and the society. He explains how parents should raise their children in Western societies and how communication should be done. The younger and new generation is different and parents should understand it.
In this lecture, Sh. A.R. Chao expounds on the importance of having a positive and healthy view of oneself. How can we improve our self esteem and appreciate what Allah we has given to our bodies to become a better Muslim.