Parents are becoming strangers to their own children especially when they become teenagers. Young people aren’t able to talk to their parents. How can we improve the relationships between parents and children in our modern society while protecting their Islam.
Shaykh Muhammad Al-Yaqoubi delivers a beautiful discourse on raising children. Outlining several pieces of advice for all parents and parents to be to take note and act upon. The talk was delivered in Bolton, UK in November 2017.
Shaykh Hasan Ali discusses how some Muslims today do not show the respect and honor towards their parents. And parents of children have a responsibilty to be loving of them to teach them the way of the Prophet (s). They have come to such a situation there is such a disconnect between the parent and children that they are strangers to each other. Shaykh Hasan reminds us what Allah says in the Quran regarding the status of parents and the importance of raising righteous children.
In this video, Sh. Dr. Yasir Qadhi covers the important topic of sexual harassment and crimes in our society. Some topics covered include:
1 Such crimes are indeed crimes and sins in the sight of Allah SWT.
– Any person committing such a sin must seek forgiveness from Allah and try to right a wrong with the victim (if possible)
– A person in power or authority committing such is a heavier sin
2) Parents should recognize, pay attention to signs of trouble and protect their children
– The vast majority of molestation occurs in hand of friends and relatives
3) If friends and family come to us for emotional support, this is not the time for blame, rather compassion should be shown
-legal authorities should be involved if necessary
Some lessons from the Quran & Seerah:
– Evil existed even at the time of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)
– The Prophet did not question harshly or reprimand the woman
– Mistaken identity is possible
– Yusuf (A.S) was a victim of power differential, but he passed the test
– One should repel the test as much as possible, but the coercion (forced) situation is forgiven
4) We should, as a society, reflect upon the rise of promiscuity, immorality, free-mixing, pornography, objectifying the female (or male) body and instead encourage intimacy strictly within marriage, limiting time alone with opposite gender, modest dress-code, etc, in order to uplift the principles of Islam.
5) Anytime harm is being done to others, this should be dealt with swiftly, publicly and may involve authorities. If adults are involved in private sins, they should be advised privately first.
Our families are broken. Our youth are facing issues we’ve never seen before. There are many struggles in this world for the family. How do we overcome these tests and save ourselves. Dr. Suzy Ismail reminds us on ways we can protect ourselves and our families.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) is often called The Teacher. In fact, his entire life is a lesson. In this seminar, we explore how the Prophet taught, nurtured and guided children through compassion, love and modelling right action. We will explore how, as parents and educators, we can take this Prophetic advice and use it to nurture children to have good character.
Lets Draw lessons from these versus: “So by mercy from Allah , [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].” (Surah Nisa, verse 159) Dealing with children and specially teens with love and compassion. Pardoning and forgiving our teens will bring them closer to us. Recognizing that it is only Allah that guides and no one else and seeking Allah’s guidance for ourselves and our families.
Dr. Zainab Alawani’s lecture entitled “A Mother’s Advice to Her Children: The Catastrophe of the Breakdown in Marriage” from the 2nd Annual United For Change Conference themed “Our Families: Our Foundations Conference” in Montreal, Canada.
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ warned us that “the time will come on my Ummah where the one who will be holding on his deen will be like the one who is holding on a hot burning piece of coal”. Even today it is hard for our children to hold onto faith, what about our grandchildren and generations to come? Do we think they will say “La Illaha Illa Allah”? How can we keep the flame of faith alive in our grandchildren and in future generations?
Have we focused the most important element of our children’s education? The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said the first thing we should teach our children is salah (prayer).
Quranic examples of parent-child relationships shed light on many issues that plight Muslim families all over the world today, says Nouman Ali Khan. While the story of Prophet Ibrahim (AS), whose father built idols that he destroyed, reminds us that imaan is not only influenced by the environment in which we are raised, that of Nuh (AS) and his son teaches us that even if you are a Prophet, you may end up with a child who refuses to accept Allah’s message. Although we have a responsibility towards our children, we have no control over the results. Allah has endowed all human beings with the ability to think for themselves which means that once your child reaches adulthood, he/she will have to make their own choices. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) famously told his daughter Fahemah that she should fear Allah because she will have to stand before Him at her own merits, for even he cannot intervene on her behalf. Risking our spiritual and emotional relationship with our children can be avoided if we take a cue from Luqman (AS) who waited for the right circumstances to lecture his son about religion. And to sons and daughters, beware because the crimes you commit against your parents will only lead to perpetual loss and agony both in this life and the next.
Shaykh Hasan Ali discusses the youth of today in the West and how parents should understand the differences in the culture and the society. He explains how parents should raise their children in Western societies and how communication should be done. The younger and new generation is different and parents should understand it.
Are you disgusted with the news of female child infanticide, raping, and mistreatment of women in the news lately? Discover what the Qur’an say about the glad tiding of a daughter and females in society.
How does conflict start between couples, parents and their children and how can we avoid it? The vicious cycle of conflict. What a a husband and wife need the most from their marriage? Working towards conflict free home. Managing our differences. Come and join us for a thought provoking presentation on marriage and family dynamics in a Muslim’s home.